Pivotal Gold rewards this week – articles and discounted books

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13% off Kathy Reichs’ latest – “Bones are Forever

Links to the articles

How to have better family conversations
Sadly, many families and groups of friends who come together during the holiday season have only superficial conversations. However, by using some simple agreements and some questions as conversation-starters, they can have a much richer and more enjoyable time of sharing their life experiences.
First, what gets in the way?
Five main impediments to quality family conversations:
 
Public Speaking Tips: More Hiding Places for Your Notes
1. I sometimes place a chair, back to audience, next to my prop or projection table. I may take off my
 coat and place it over the chair, but I also use the chair back to tape up notes, or even put them in the seat.

Learn How to Control Anger in a Relationship
Keep in mind that anger is controllable and a choice that you can choose to do something about if you want. If you tell your spouse or partner when you are angry, then it will help avoid a situation that could be otherwise pushed to the boiling point.
Are you beginning to see how choosing to control your anger is an important first step?

For Pivotal Gold + Members only

43% off the bestselling “The Age of Miracles” by Karen Thompson Walker

How to Keep a Conversation Going

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It happens to the best of us: we’re talking to someone we’ve just met, and theconversation is stalling. We don’t know where to take it, how to keep it going and the silence is making us feel awkward. Although in the grand scheme of things, these moments are meaningless, they can be quite a burden for you when they happen.

I think the biggest problem here is not that awkward feeling though, but the fact that not knowing good ways to keep aconversation going can make you lose the opportunity to get to know an otherwise great person.

It is common for conversations with new people to have bumps at the beginning. Get them over those bumps successfully, and you could find yourself building a beautiful relationship. Here are the best 5 ways I know to do this:    http://bit.ly/i5wLHL

Book teaches “how to talk so men will listen”

Ever watch a colleague take credit for your idea, been accused of being emotional, taken jokes too personally or been interrupted frequently in a meeting?

Most women will nod yes to such scenarios, say the authors of “Code Switching: How to Talk So Men Will Listen,” a new book on communication, or the lack thereof, between men and women.

Men and women communicate differently, say authors Claire Damken Brown and Audrey Nelson, in ingrained styles learned from birth and deeply embedded in the workplace structure.

They propose “code switching,” which they describe as using knowledge of more than one culture and language to communicate.

http://www.reuters.com/article/mediaNews/idUSN0749127520091008

Video – focus your communication

Better Communication – Focus your Communication

Focus your communication on the needs of the audience


Hypnotize Anyone Just By Speaking?


Today I have something very special I want to share with you.
First, I want to introduce you to a good friend of mine. His name
is Steve G. Jones and he’s a world renowned, super-educated
hypnotherapist.
You see, Steve doesn’t claim to be a “know-it-all.”
But the one thing HE DOES know better than 99.99% of the people on
the planet is how to use hypnosis in both everyday life and
therapeutically.
After all, that’s just about the only thing Steve has done with his
life, professionally speaking, for the last 24 years!
And even after being a go-to hypnotist, for nearly a quarter of a
century, he absolutely loves it!
Why shouldn’t he? Every day he help people awake the giant within…
– He helps men become confident and attract women
– He helps women to unlock their sexuality and drive men wild
– He helps businessmen to master the art of persuasion to close a
deal … and, every day he learns something new.
You see, hypnosis has been working for Steve perfectly for over 24
years. He has successfully taught men and women to use hypnosis in
everyday life.
But when Steve asks his patients, his clients what is the single,
most powerful technique he has taught them, amazingly a large
percentage surprise him by saying – conversational, everyday
hypnosis.
That’s why he has developed an amazing 18 module system to give you
almost-absolute control in everyday situations.
Imagine if you could induce hypnosis in anyone while speaking to
them… and it’s not a rocket science.
However there are two limiting factors.
You can hypnotize one individual at a time (so forget about
creating a big harem of hot, hypnotized women calling you
responding to your TV ad). 🙂
An individual must have an IQ of at least 90. In other words, the
person is not extremely stupid (so forget hypnotizing your dog).
Other than that you must know:
“With great power comes great responsibility” – Spiderman’s uncle
Steve will show you how to master everyday hypnosis… He’ll even
give you word-by-word scripts so he makes sure you’ll get it.
I asked Steve if I can let you know about his powerful system.
He agreed, but under one condition…
That you promise to me, you’ll use it ethically. As hypnosis of
that degree in unethical hands could mean a disaster… And I don’t
want to be held responsible for such thing.
It is like a weapon.. I am carefully selecting to who I am giving
it. Check out the website to see if you qualify.
In Steve’s Ultimate Conversational Hypnosis System you’ll
discover…
** How to use one little-known routine to make an outstanding,
charming first impression.
** How to close almost any deal for as long as there is even a
slightest interest in your offer (and quick-test to find that out
on Module 6)
** How to calm down aggressive people and demand their attention.
On Module 8.
** How to induce amnesia – Extremely powerful one – Module 9.
Or the nice-one, my clients specially like…
** How to start a conversation even with a total stranger and
having a great rapport from very beginning
Best of all, you can discover these and dozens of other proven and
powerful hypnosis techniques for very little money… as part of
this special marketing test available only to my subscribers!
So, if you want to get an edge in everyday communication, lead
other people towards your goals and you promise to do it
ethically… I urge you to find out more about Steve’s
“Ultimate Conversational Hypnosis” system by clicking the link
below:

===> http://www.consultpivotal.com/Aconversational_hypnosis.htm

To Your Success,

http://www.consultpivotal.com/Aconversational_hypnosis.htm

P.S. There’s no risk. If you aren’t 100% delighted with Steve’s
techniques… if you don’t realize their potential INSTANTLY, just
let him know within 60 days.
He’ll promptly refund your money. And you can keep the entire System
with his compliments! That way, he takes all the risk — and you
can’t lose!
So what are you waiting for? To inspect the system risk-free for a
full 2 months, click the link below:

Book Review -The Complete Book of Questions: 1001 Conversation Starters for Any Occasion

 

 

by Garry Poole

This book provides groups with 1,001 engaging and thought-provoking icebreaker questions to start and sustain meaningful conversations.

 

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You’re Too Kind : A Brief History of Flattery

You're too kindby Richard Stengel

From the reviews

Stengel (a senior editor at Time magazine) ponders the meaning of flattery and illustrates that more than mere praise, flattery is praise with a motive, be it benign or grasping.

You’re Too Kind is a witty, colorful, fast-paced trip through history.  It’s meticulously researched and comprehensive. Stengel charts a droll and whimsical history, starting with the Egyptians (“Laugh after he laughs, and it will be very pleasing to his heart,” recommends Vizier Ptahhotep), and concluding with handy hints on how to flatter without getting caught: “Never be candid when a person asks you to be candid.” In between, he asks questions such as “What is circumcision, really, but a kind of divinely enforced flattery?” in an irreverent discourse around the covenant with the Israelites, and looks at everyone from troubadours to Dale Carnegie, Puritans to Hollywood D-girls.

It does bounce around, from the fascinating history of flattery to great tips about flattery to research concerning flattery.

Beware: After reading this book, you may look at the subject of strategic praise in a whole new light, and it may not be a flattering one, either. Enjoyable and informative.